Claim Her, Or Leave

I spent most of my dating life subtly hinting at long-term commitment in order to secure short-term affection. Even in my longest relationships, I left at least one internal back door open. There was no one until my wife Carolyn where my apparent commitment was...

Spiritual Cults: The Beautiful Con

Once, many thousands of years ago, there lived a woman who seemed happy and wise. Other people took notice of this. And as they themselves did not feel happy, they came to her and said “Teacher, give us your wisdom.” “I have no wisdom,” she said. The people left,...

3 Bad Types of Business Advice

Between entrepreneurial seminars, personal business coaches, and the ads for marketing courses that interrupt my Alan Watts binges on Youtube, I have been gifted a lot of information on How To Do Business The Right Way. Some has been useful. The majority of it has...

Letter to a Man Who Cheated

“Dave, I want to be fully met by my partner, and honestly I’m just not. So I decided to follow my desire. I went elsewhere to get my needs met. I found someone I DO feel met by. Really, truly met. It felt like the right thing to do the whole way. But now I feel awful....

5 Tools To Win

I know that the part of me that wants to be better will never be satisfied. The drive to be a better partner, a better coach— or friend, thinker, feeler, athlete, businessman, writer, cellist, son, man— is permanent. Each successive level up is satisfying, but not...